The Dark Side of Self-Control

 

Here is an excerpt from an article written by Michail D. Kokkoris and Olga Stavrova for Harvard Business Review and the HBR Blog Network. To read the complete article, check out the wealth of free resources, obtain subscription information, and receive HBR email alerts, please click here.

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An ability to override short-term impulses that conflict with long-term goals is a hallmark of successful people. Research has shown that people with strong self-control have better health, relationships, finances, and careers. They are also less likely to have problems with overeating, overspending, smoking, alcohol or drug abuse, procrastination, and unethical behavior. Overcoming temptation also seems to be intrinsically rewarding — people with high self-control are also more satisfied with their lives and experience their lives as more meaningful.

But is resisting temptation always beneficial? A small but growing body of research has begun to illuminate a dark side of self-control, with important implications for organizational life.

Self-control can restrict emotional experiences. One of the reasons why people high in self-control resist temptations is that they experience less tempting desires. But this might also mean that these people have less intense emotional experiences; that is, they respond to situations in more neutral ways. For example, high self-control might prevent employees from fully enjoying positive career outcomes, such as promotions, raises, and outstanding performance appraisals.

Self-control may lead to long-term regret. When people reflect on their lives, they tend to regret exerting too much self-control (e.g., choosing work over fun) and missing out on the pleasures of life. This experience of regret emerges only after time has passed. For example, a very successful CEO who had to make a lot of sacrifices in her life in order to pave her way to the top might feel that she has missed out on many pleasures when she gets older and reflects on her life as a whole.

Self-control can lead to increased workload. People tend to rely on others with high self-control, and this might make the latter feel burdened. For example, an employee who is very good at exerting self-control might be overloaded by her colleagues’ requests to undertake tasks and responsibilities, as they all know that she will manage to reliably meet all demands.

Self-control can be used for ill. Self-controlled people seem to be more successful in whatever their endeavors are, including antisocial ones. Although high self-control people are generally less likely to engage in illegal or antisocial activities (e.g., reckless driving or cheating) than low self-control people, when they do engage in such activities, they are less likely to get caught. For example, even though people with high self-control might be highly valued employees in an organization, ironically they might be the ones most “successful” in unethical behaviors that remain undetected and unpunished. In addition, high self-control people are better at complying with social norms, even when these norms impose personally harmful behaviors (e.g., taking illegal drugs to enhance performance).

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Here is a direct link to the complete article.

Michail D. Kokkoris is an assistant professor in the Department of Marketing at WU Vienna University of Economics and Business

Olga Stavrova is an assistant professor in the Department of Social Psychology at Tilburg University.

 

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